Have you ever “googled” the words, “Who was Cain’s wife?” There are literally hundreds of sites online debating in one form or other the authenticity and impact of the Biblical account of Cain’s family. In most cases, any discussion on the wife of Cain, as reported in Genesis 4:17, is questioned in order to discredit not only the historical marriage, but more importantly, God, who gave us the record of her life. Without doubt, people will go to great lengths rejecting the Bible to “excuse” their duty to obey it. So, who was Cain’s wife? There is much one can know about a person by their choices of companions. The apostle wrote, “Do not be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals,’” 1 Corinthians 15:33. As true as those words are today, the same can be said concerning folks who lived back at the beginning as well. As with all Bible characters, we know more about the event surrounding her life, than about her as a person. Though her name is not mentioned, to say we know very little about her is far from the truth. Here are some things we know about Cain’s wife.
First, she was committed to a religious man with weak principles and integrity. It would appear that Cain got his sense of “godliness” from his dad. Adam was with Eve when she partook of the forbidden fruit. What ever happened to a man being a man, and telling his wife who is about to do something wrong, “Hey, we cannot do that! It is wrong to eat of the tree that God has forbidden!” But Adam was a weak religious man; like father, like son! Is it any wonder that Cain struggled to make a stand for righteousness when it came to spiritual matters? But, then, Cain was his own man. He was weak when it came to offering acceptable worship before God. It appears that he thought he knew better than God, and certainly better than his brother Abel when it came to worship. What we know is that God was not pleased with his sacrifice like He was Abel’s, see Hebrews 11:4. How many wives of today are identified by their husbands refusal to stand for what is right when it comes to worshipping God according to His will? And, how many men will stand before God someday and answer for the influence they wielded in the lives of their wives that ultimately led to the separation of their wives from God for eternity? What can be said of this woman who was married to a murderer? See Genesis 4:8,25. While many strain to know the identity of this woman, it might be said that what is known of her gives rise to poor reputation. For what of other wives in history whose names have fallen into obscurity as a result of the antics of their notorious husbands? Consider how history remembers women like Mrs. Benedict Arnold, Mrs. Jesse James, Mrs. Joseph Stalin, Mrs. Adolf Hitler, or even Mrs. Lee Harvey Oswald. Greatly debated among scholars is the “mark” of Cain, but what about the “mark” of the woman who all history remembers as the wife of Cain? If she knew how history recorded her family, she would probably be thankful her name does not between the covers of Holy Writ. To add insult to injury, is it not enough that this woman was married to a man whose life was summarized as being a man who was “of the evil one,” and that “his deeds were evil,” 1 John 3:12? Also, what of the fact that though he worshipped, it was not of faith, Hebrews 11:4, and that “whatever does not proceed from faith is sin,” Romans 14:23. And what about the fact that her husband was a jealous man, and a liar, Genesis 4:4,5,9. It was her husband who was given as an example of the life of all unbelievers who will be judged by Christ, Jude 5-11. With a family whose reputation was so tarnished by sin and disgrace, why would one scoff at the idea that she might have been his sister or niece? On a kinder note, some good thoughts to remember is that she was a dutiful wife, as she is seen with Cain after he is banished from God’s presence, Genesis 4:16,17. She even bore a son to Cain, whose name was Enoch. Perhaps she could even have been proud of the fact that the city that was built by her husband, bore the name of her son, Genesis 4:17. But things that might be interpreted as positive in the life of Cain’s wife only fade into gloom by the shameful scars that exist upon this nameless woman of history. How do you want to be remembered?