Have you ever “googled” the words, “Who was Cain’s wife?” There are literally hundreds of sites online debating in one form or other the authenticity and impact of the Biblical account of Cain’s family. In most cases, any discussion on the wife of Cain, as reported in Genesis 4:17, is questioned in order to discredit not only the historical marriage, but more importantly, God, who gave us the record of her life. Without doubt, people will go to great lengths rejecting the Bible to “excuse” their duty to obey it. So, who was Cain’s wife? There is much one can know about a person by their choices of companions. The apostle wrote, “Do not be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals,’” 1 Corinthians 15:33. As true as those words are today, the same can be said concerning folks who lived back at the beginning as well. As with all Bible characters, we know more about the event surrounding her life, than about her as a person. Though her name is not mentioned, to say we know very little about her is far from the truth. Here are some things we know about Cain’s wife.
In our library is a book Willie Cato wrote entitled, His Hand And Heart: The Wit And Wisdom Of Marshall Keeble. In it Brother Cato, a great gospel preacher and a dearly departed family friend, reflected on his years of travel with Brother Keeble, and the interesting perspective he had on the Christian life. Concerning marriage Keeble encouraged young men to prepare themselves in view of being a good prospect for a young lady to marry. He said, “You’re looking for the best girl to marry, but what is she looking for? If you live a hog’s life—down in the mire all the time—what angel would want to lay down with hogs?” Brother Keeble had a witty way of making his points. As for the right person to marry he said, “Don’t marry one who is not a member of the church of Christ. You’ll have trouble! Just don’t marry—you’ll have enough trouble with them that are members of the church of Christ.” Marriage is not always easy. It takes work on the part of both people involved.
“A” comes before “Z” except for when it does not! Do you remember the times in school when the teacher told the students to get in line in alphabetical order to go to the lunchroom? The “A’s” were always in front of the line. If your name started with a “W” or a “Y,” it could be a tough position in which to be. However, once in a while the teacher would say, “Now everyone turn around.” Then, all the sudden the last one in line became the first. In those situations, when the “A’s” were expecting to be first, they generally were pretty disappointed to see that they were now last to go to the lunchroom. On one occasion Jesus drew what appears to be a “Z” before “A,” picture. It took place in the twentieth chapter of Matthew. Recall the story, “parable,” He related about the “master of the house” who went out early to hire laborers for his vineyard. He sent them to work. Then as the day progressed he hired more laborers at the third, the sixth, the ninth, and even at the eleventh hour, and sent more laborers into the field. He had agreed to pay each laborer a denarius, a day’s wage, if they would go work.
There are some pretty messed up families in the Bible. I mean REALLY messed up. Here is a list of just a few.
1. One man blamed his wife for something that they BOTH did, which caused both of them to be evicted from their home.
2. One man offered up his daughters to a mob of angry men to appease them.
3. One man lied about his wife to another man, which caused a plague to come over his entire household.
4. One family had two sons. His father loved the first son more, while his mother loved the other more. The mother lied and tricked her husband, so her beloved son would get the family blessing and inheritance that was owed to his favorite son.
5. One family took their father's favorite son and sold him into slavery. SLAVERY.
6. One man stole one of his best friend's wives, had his best friend killed, and then married her.